Are you that man?

Are you that man?

Are you that man who thinks that women can be really annoying?

Are you that man who shouldn’t know about strong women?

Are you that man who experiences competition against other men?

Are you that man who is afraid to look in the mirror?

Are you that man who takes up space and doesn’t let others finish?

Are you that man who doesn’t like being questioned by women about your behaviour?

Are you the man who takes it for granted that women do more in the household anyway?

Are you that man who often goes over the boundaries of his partner?

Are you that man who does not share his feelings with his lover?

Are you that man who is afraid of not being able or allowed to be a man enough?

Are you that man who all too often sees women as sex objects?

Are you that man who once unlawfully forced himself on a woman?

Are you that man?

Then you are not alone. And no. It’s not just your fault that you think and act like this. But it is your responsibility to make something better of it together. And that responsibility starts with you. You stand in front of the mirror and look yourself in the eye. What is hidden in your soul? Where is your fear? your sadness? your anger? Your frustration? Your disappointment? your pain?

Embrace the real person in you. Either male, genderqueer and/or trans. Get closer to your real self and take responsibility for your thoughts and actions.

The new man is not an actual fact, but a verb. And this as long as we live in a patriarchal society where men still rule.