Beyond Jealousy

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Jealousy can cause a lot of damage in a relationship. It often touches upon our darker sides, the aspects of ourselves that we don't want to acknowledge. We fear them. When we refuse to confront the truth about ourselves, something less pleasant emerges.

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Jealousy, few people have not encountered it in their relationships. I am not exempt from it either. Jealousy can sometimes catch me unexpectedly, in a way that completely consumes me. At the same time, it has taught me a great deal about myself. Jealousy serves as a good gauge for the challenges we face in everyday life.

Jealousy can wreak havoc in a relationship, whether it’s a romantic, familial, friendship, or professional relationship. In this writing, I will focus on romantic relationships. Jealousy often touches our dark sides, the aspects of ourselves that we do not want to acknowledge. We fear them. When we refuse to confront the truth about ourselves, something less beautiful emerges. Jealousy can manifest as anger, possessiveness, fear, dominance, manipulation, impulsive behavior, stalking, sadness, insecurity, depression, and a sense of powerlessness. It can also take a toll on your body, leading to headaches, dizziness, muscle pain, digestive issues, and even panic attacks and delusions.

All these factors do not bode well for a relationship. In the best case scenario, it lingers silently in the background until it eventually explodes one day. In the worst case scenario, the relationship rapidly crashes before you have the chance to address it in a healthy manner. It’s no wonder that jealousy is called the green monster, seemingly an inevitable evil that we just can’t seem to control. And yet, it is possible!

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When experiencing jealousy, there is often a tendency to accuse the other person. "You're flirting with that woman!" or "Having lunch with her is surely more enjoyable than with me!" Take a moment to calm down and allow yourself some time to let go of these accusations. What is being triggered deep within you? What is coming up for you? Try to understand the precise reason for your jealousy. If you can articulate that reason to yourself, you are already one step ahead and a bit closer to finding a solution. Good luck with it!

tr: If you’d like to delve deeper into dealing with jealousy, you can also contact me for an individual coaching session. I’m here to assist you in moving forward!

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Beyond Jealousy

Jealousy can cause a lot of damage in a relationship. It often touches upon our darker sides, the aspects of ourselves that we don’t want to acknowledge. We fear them. When we refuse to confront the truth about ourselves, something less pleasant emerges.

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